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Ultimate Courage

Self-Compassion Training for Men

Thursday, July 27, 2017 - 4:00pm to Sunday, July 30, 2017 - 12:00pm
Daniel Ellenberg, Phd and Steven Hickman, PsyD


EarthRise Transformative Learning Center
101 San Antonio Road
Petaluma, California 94952
United States

What does it take for a man to be successful in this day and age? How do you navigate through the changing demands of life and keep fulfilling the expectations of your roles? Men are expected to be strong, confident, productive and protective. What happens when you don’t meet these expectations? Let’s face it, it can be challenging to be a man in our society today.

Thankfully, science is validating a better way of meeting these challenges. This approach combines knowledge from ancient wisdom traditions, modern neuroscience and psychological research. We are learning that the most resilient, successful, and emotionally intelligent men are the ones who can face adversity and challenge with an open heart and a self-compassionate nature, rather than a rigid or self-critical one. Fortunately, research and practice shows that self-compassion is a skill that can be taught and learned.

Developing our capacity to be self-compassionate seems like the opposite of how most of us learned to be masculine or manly, but nothing could be further from the truth. It takes courage to challenge traditional male role attitudes and behaviors—to step outside the male box, evaluate how well those behaviors are serving you, and create a different relationship with yourself and others.

In this weekend workshop, we will discover how:
• Experiencing our common humanity, as men and simply as humans, helps us overcome feelings of failure, isolation, or not fitting in
• Finding a middle path between the extremes of harsh self-criticism and complete surrender can actually result in greater happiness, life satisfaction, and personal and professional achievement
• Developing a kind inner voice, an inner ally, can actually motivate andencourage us more than any self-criticism ever could
• The empirically-validated practice of mindfulness can help us develop a more productive and comfortable relationship with our thoughts and emotions

Our journey will include a variety of different action-oriented practices as well as meditation and group dialogue intended to develop the resource of self-compassion and resilience. Come join a group of men all inspired to challenge archaic limitations and set forth on a powerful, spirited path.

About the Presenter(s): 

Daniel Ellenberg, PhD is a leadership coach, licensed therapist, seminar leader, and group facilitator. He is a principle in both Rewire Leadership Institute and Relationships That Work. He leads Strength with Heart men’s groups and seminars and is a founding member of the Men’s Counseling Guild. He has been leading weekly men’s groups for over 30 years and wrote his dissertation on psychological aspects of the male sex role. He is also the co-author of Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership.


Steven Hickman, PsyD is a clinical psychologist and Associate Clinical Professor in the UC San Diego Departments of Psychiatry and Family Medicine & Public Health. He is the founder and Executive Director of the UC San Diego Center for Mindfulness and is also the Executive Director of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion and an MSC Teacher Trainer. Steve is particularly interested in supporting men in developing greater self-compassion and mindfulness and is involved in projects to develop these capacities in Olympic-class athletes, first-responders and active duty military.


Event Cost: 

Early-Bird Registration Fee: $495 + Room and Board